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My Wife Miscarriaged!
May 18, 2008It was a rainy Friday afternoon last May 16 when I arrived at Cotabato City. I just came back from a 2-day meeting at our main office in Davao City. I immediately went to the 3rd floor of our area office expecting my wife at her desk (we work at the same office) but she wasn’t there. I remembered that she has an appointment with her ob-gyne but I didn’t know that she have not come back to the office yet.
I called her up and I noticed right away that she was crying. When I asked her whereabouts, she said she’s outside the hospital, where it is raining very hard, waiting for a ride home. What she said next came up as a total shock:
“Baby, wala na tayo’ng baby. Hindi daw nabuo sabi ng doktor.”
The most dreaded word for an expecting mother had struck:
MISCARRIAGE !
Wendy’s first check-up was actually last May 10 but since her ob-gyne could not detect any heartbeat from within her womb, she advised her to return after one week. She returned last May 16 and was told to undergo an ultrasound because no heartbeat can still be detected. The sonologist gave this conclusion: ANEMBRYONIC PREGNANCY. Her ob-gyne was not able to explain that to her as she already left.
When I met my wife at home, I can see how devastated she really was. I tried to console her by saying that we seek a second opinion. Even her mother said so. That was a sleepless night for her as she could not contain herself from crying.
The next day, we met her ob-gyne and explained to us the result.
Her gestational sac (placenta) has already collapsed because the embryo never developed and it is only 4 weeks old instead of the expected 3 months. Her cervix has slightly opened which might indicate that anytime, she will bleed as her body will start to reject the mass of tissue inside her womb. I asked if it might be possible that the baby was not just seen through ultrasound because it might still be too small since my wife will still turn a full 3 months pregnant on May 22, a mere 5 days away. She said that that might be probable if she sees a perfectly formed sac but its irregular shape voids that possibility. Besides, she assured us that you can detect a baby’s heartbeat as early as 2 months.
I find it hard to believe how come this have happened. We are sad and confused at the same time. We prayed so hard against a miscarriage but there’s nothing we can do but accept it. No more second opinions.
It hurts when you think that your plans have been compromised. Will we still be able to keep our dream of having our children be born on a November just like ours? I don’t know, we don’t know. Only God really knows.
She will be admitted to the hospital on May 20 to undergo a “raspa”. She will be given a drug that will induce bleeding and allow her cervix to open. But it might take 1 or more days depending on her body’s reaction to that drug. In “raspa”, her uterus (or womb) will be scraped to remove the placenta and the fetal tissue. Dahil nga kasi hindi natuloy ang pregnancy, kailangan matanggal ang inunan (placenta). Magcacause lang ito ng bleeding at mapopoison ang bloodstream niya pag hindi natanggal.
My wife dreads the day. She has never been admitted to the hospital before for any kind of sickness.
Sigh, how I wish she will be brought to the hospital to give birth and not for this reason…
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ark, so sad to read/know this…be strong always!
Posted by sarz at June 2, 2008, 9:40 amI feel your loss bro and pray that God will reveil His greater plan for both of you since my wife and i also went through 2 similar episodes and we have accepted our loss through faith. God bless
Posted by Ram J at June 4, 2008, 5:51 amkuya ark, graduate po ako ng nursing.. so i know you pinagdadanan nyo.. masakit pero kailangan tangapin.. alm naman ntin na lahat ng bagay mar rason kung bkit db.. kaya natin toh.. aja!!!
Posted by dennis at September 30, 2008, 2:24 amkuya.. i am a father of two.. its so sad marinig ang kwentong ito… alam ko ang pakiramdam ng isang father.. pare, sa lahat ng mga smiles mo sa pix mo, may nakakatago rin palang lungkot… napakasakit tlg mawalan ng anak.. kaya iniingatan ko tlg ang mga anak ko ngayon.. GodBles bro..
Posted by doy_kabacan at November 6, 2008, 3:40 pm@dennis - salamat sa kind words..
@doy_kabacan - dalawa naman ang mukha ng buhay eh, may masaya at malungkot.. ganun talaga eh.. good luck sa mga anak mo, be a good father bro.
Posted by ark at November 6, 2008, 10:41 pmhey, how sad i am to hear ur story, with that i felt guilt because i knew to myself that the suposed 1st to bear that i shoul be bearing,, eh,,, pinalaglag ko… i knew it is wrong, this time nga e,, i was stocked w/ a feeling of guilt.. grabe ang sakit tlaga, dont know f ano mangyayari sa kin now kasi though i survived the pains of series of bleeding,, e not stop na ,, e di na ako nagparaspa pa.. i tnk din kasi na mahal,, wats ur advice shud i undergo dis procedure b4 i get poison……. pls help
Posted by may at October 29, 2009, 1:56 pmI advise magpacheckup ka na lang sa isang ob-gyne para sigurado na malinis na ang tiyan mo. Then pray, it helps to ease away the pain and guilt.
Posted by ark at October 29, 2009, 4:16 pmArk,
Glad to know na hindi pala ako nag-iisa sa ganitong mga sitwasyon. Mas ok pa nga ang nangyari sa iyo at na-detect kagad in 4 weeks time unlike ours. Nasa 7th week na ang misis ko and yet hoping for a fetus to develop. Ang hirap ng naghihintay. Pero mabuti na rin at sinabihan kami ng OB ng maaga na baka blighted dahil nung 1st check-up nya (4 weeks na daw according to ultrasound eh sac pa lang ang present whereas dapat may pole and fetus na for the most common signs of pregnancy). Sa sobrang worry ko, nag-research ako sa internet at halos lahat ng mabasa ko sa internet regarding miscarriage symptoms ay nakikita ko na sa misis ko which included bleeding/spotting, cramps in the stomach. Well, sobrang sakit talagang isipin pero wala tayong magagawa ganun talaga siguro ang plano ni Lord. Walang dapat sisihin sabi ko nga sa sarili ko wag kong sayangin ang buhay namin dahil lang sa isang malungkot na pangyayari….yung iba nga diyan kahit hindi hingiin nabubuntis kagad ng walang kahirap-hirap pati panganganak parang nag-pupu lang. Madalas pa nga naiisip ko anong nagawa namin bakit kami nagkaganito….But enough of all that, lets learn from our past and do better for the future. On the brighter side there will always be a next time. 7 days from now mag-undergo ulit ang wife ko ng ultrasound to know if there is a fetus.. I’m still not giving up the fight but it’s a good thing to have a plan when things don’t go as it should be..
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I’m sorry to hear about your loss.
Posted by Ade at May 29, 2008, 6:35 pm